Update (3-24-15): I’ve now been married almost 10 years and have more insight on this and somewhat different views on life. I will be writing an updated look at “The Proper Feeding and Care of Husbands” soon.
I have been reading “The Proper Feeding and Care Of Husbands.” Dr. Laura Schlessinger. It is really eye opening to me. Growing up I got to have many different experiences as far as the role my mom played for the family. But what I remember the most is once we started home schooling and my mom of course was staying home, she did the house work, cooking, and all those kind of things, my dad worked and did the “manly chores” around the house. So I grew up for the most part in what I thought was the normal family. We had a very happy family and I thought it was the norm but it doesn’t really seem that way anymore.
My friends and some family like to ask me all the time when I’m going to college and “what am I planning on doing.” I know they mean well but really how many times to I have to say I’m not planning to go to college and I run a business. But even if I didn’t have my business since when is it not okay for women to stay home?
I feel I do a lot and if anyone followed me around for a day they would see that. I run a business and take care of the house. My husband and I both have allergies and I have asthma so I have to keep the house very clean. I also try and feed us good, healthy food and that does take more time.
Anyway, to get on to the point. When did it become a bad thing to want to care for your husband and/or family? Since when did everyone need to go to college and get a 9 to 5 job?
If you have a job and went to college that good for you, but that isn’t for me. I love having my own business and taking care of my husband. It works out great for my husband and I.
My husband is going to school full time and working a lot of hours, so that we can have a great life together. I don’t think it’s too much for me to keep the house clean, have a hot healthy meal ready shortly after he is home from work, and those other things that make him happy and feel loved.
So many women now are so hateful to there husbands and want to blame it on them. Did they forget or did their parents never teach them to treat others as you want to be treated? Do you think your husband will want to buy you flowers and such if you are hateful to him all day?
I’m in a lot of groups on Myspace for married women and seems like on most of them all they do is talk badly about their husbands. I have found that if you just think about bad things all day you will be in a bad mood and everything well seem worse. Why not remember the good things? Also shouldn’t you talk about the things that bother you with your husband not your friends?
I’m sure I’m not always the most loving wife but I do try and my husband knows that. I hear women say “my husband never talks to me,” “my husband never buys me gifts,” etc and I wonder what have they done for him. I have flowers in both our bedroom and the living room right now from Justin, just because.
A few days ago a book came in the mail for me from him, again no reason. Do you think I had been yelling and nagging at him for the past weeks? Of course not. But on the same note it doesn’t take a whole lot of work to keep him happy and wanting to care for me like he does.
I clean the house, I make him lunch between work and school, I still put on make-up and do my hair before he gets home. So many of us get to used to our husbands and stop doing the things we did when we were dating because we have them why work. And I have a hot meal ready soon after he gets home.
It’s simple. In turn I get flowers and gifts. He takes care of me, when I’m not feeling well without asking he takes over a lot of my stuff, he picks up after himself a lot of the time, etc… I get so much in return for just a little work. Which is better and which is a quicker way to happiness, nagging or caring?
Well now that I’m done ranting for now. So if you are married go hug your husband and tell him you love him. If he seems really surprised you should try and do it more.