When I was first married homemaking was fun. It was like playing house all over again but with a purpose. I kept up with things and had time leftover. Each Friday I was done with housework by noon and my best friend came over to eat lunch and hang out.
Somewhere along the way homemaking became overwhelming. Now I always feel like I’m drowning in things I need to do. I look at my to-do list with no idea how I will ever get it all done. So what happened? That’s the question I keep asking myself because I want to go back to when homemaking was fun and I wasn’t always overwhelmed. I’ve decided to make a list of things I think are contributing to this problem. Maybe you can relate.
Why I’m an Overwhelmed Homemaker
- Social Media. Social media is a huge distraction for many. Not only is it on our computers, it’s also on our phones. It’s easy to say “oh I’ll just check my email, well while I’m on here I’ll just look at Facebook for a minutes…” Soon you are in the social media black hole. With my blog,some other work, and volunteering I do needing me to be on social media it’s hard to get on, get my work done, and get off.
- Blogging. I LOVE blogging but when you work at home it can be hard to make sure work doesn’t consume everything. I’ve never been good at following schedules but this may have to change.
- I don’t say no. If you work at home or you are stay at home mom or homemaker, you likely find people think you have nothing but free time so if something needs done they should ask you. I’m getting better at saying no but for so long I said yes to everything.
- Fatigue. I have Fibromyalgia and I do deal with quite a bit of fatigue. I also tend to have trouble going to sleep and staying asleep. Chronic fatigue can make everyday tasks a struggle.
- We have more stuff. We have been married for 10 years so we have a lot more space and stuff now than we did when we were first married. More stuff means more to clean and take care of.
- My husband works at home. I love that I don’t need to worry about my husband driving to work in bad weather (he worked about 30 miles away before). I also love that his schedule is more flexible and I get to see him more. But I’m an introvert and I need time alone and tend to work more efficiently alone. Plus, anytime more people are home, there will be more mess. He does a good job of taking care of his mess in his office, so I’m very grateful for that.
These are my main roadblocks. Knowing what’s wrong is half the battle right? Now it’s time to fix these issues. I wish this post was about how to not be a overwhelmed homemaker but right now I’m not qualified to write that. I can however share my plan with you and report back after I try it for awhile.
Mission- Become a Happy Homemaker
- Find a schedule that works and stick to it.
- Work on healthy sleep habits.
- Keep learning to say no.
- Make time for myself.
It’s almost a new month and we are almost half way through the year, the perfect time to test this out. For the next month I will be trying this plan. This week will be tough as it’s my birthday week and I have lots of fun activities planned away from home. However, there will always be an excuse why I need to wait to try this.
I’d love to hear if you are overwhelmed, what you think is causing it. Also share anything you have tried to do to fix it and if it worked.
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